What To Expect

If you’re deciding to divorce the narcissist you’re currently married to, I advise you to prepare for a high conflict divorce. The last thing a narcissist can handle is loss of control or rejection. You can most likely expect a barrage of negative attacks and may need to put up some emotional and physical boundaries.

At ASW Law Office, we’ve seen firsthand (many times) how narcissists utilize control and/or gaslighting techniques. If this was done throughout your marriage, you can be sure that those ploys will come up throughout the divorce proceedings. Their expectation is that they can manipulate the judge in the same manner they do to others. Here are some tips to help you prepare mentally and legally.

Tips To Divorce A Narcissist

In any divorce you have to be calculated, think logically, and have a solid divorce strategy. Accordingly, here are some important tips (specifically) when divorcing a narcissist:

• Do not alert your spouse until your legal team is in place. Alerting a narcissist can be dangerous for your physical safety. In addition, they could try to sabotage your case before it even begins.
• Keep copies of everything, documentation is key! A narcissist will distort the truth. Having documentation helps stop them in their tracks.
• Disarm them by maintaining your composure. This may anger the narcissist and provoke more gaslighting, but, it does set you up for ultimate success.
• Set mental and physical boundaries. The best way to avoid narcissistic attacks are to simply avoid them. Don’t lend your mental energy to thwarting their plans. Alternatively, use third parties to avoid physical interactions to help lessen the attacks.
• Stay off social media! Attorneys will use everything they have at their disposal to win for their client. This means all your social media posts are up for scrutiny. If you disparage or badmouth your spouse, it will be seen by the judge and could not fair well for your case.

Our Expertise Fights For You

It’s important not to let your emotions cloud your judgment, despite the many emotions that can accompany divorce, such as anger, betrayal, or brokenness. Realize that after making the decision, divorce becomes a business transaction. Considering this, your life after divorce will be affected by your choices, whether you choose to fight until the end or surrender right away. Reach out to us on our website, DM or call us today at 888-981-7509. Our team of attorneys can use their expertise to fight for you and reach an agreement in your specific case.